Friday, December 30, 2011

2011 recap

Oh well, it's the time of the year again to recap what have I done for the past one year. Year 2011 to me was truly eventful. I was sent to Korea for a work assignment since beginning of the year. It was initially a 2 months assignment and got extended again and again from winter to spring and eventually summer. Undeniable Korea is a nice place; the food, the weather, the culture and most important the people! The work assigment itself has been tough to me, I worked around the clock, had language barrier and culture shock, struggled to meet the timeline, difficulties in dealing with demanding client and complex system, homesick and etc, but all this has given me chance to learnt and gain exposure, I appreciate it much.

First time seeing snow

First time skiing

Danny flew to Korea to meet up with me. I was happy :)

With a blink of an eye, Spring has arrived.

Cozy weather during the spring with great people I met in Korea

Before I knew it, it's Summer. Had lots of fun with Cylvia after I moved to the same hotel with her. We both love shopping, drinking, eating, and laughing.. We shared the infamous story where 2 of us can finish the whole chicken where it usually serve for 4. And we can shop until 4am! :p.

We were so close we even saw each other naked body at the Korean spa - Jimjilbang. Kakaka :D. Btw, the Jimjilbang experience was SUPERB. I've never felt so rejuvenated before. Now I know the secret of beauty of Korean girls.

Then... after 7 months, it came my farewell. It was nostalgic to leave a bunch of lovely colleagues. We were like having college life in Korea - we stayed together, makan together, burn the midnight oil together, plan for weekend activities together.. and get drunk together! Love you guys.

To the peeps

On the other hand; while I was away from home, Danny has relocated to Singapore. Yeah, so we are now maintaining a distance relationship. However, although we are in a LDR now, but I don't feel that we are drifting apart at all, distance makes heart grow fonder, on a second thought, it's not too bad as we are still meeting each other weekly or not every 2 weeks. But of course, I think it would be better if we can stay with each other again just like how we used to be, well so I've requested for a transfer and let's see if that happen and this will be my resolution for 2012. Wish me luck. :)

Another new journey I've started in 2011, which is the online biz I started with KTV to sell accessories I brought back from Korea. Although we are just earning peanut in this side business, but I believe the journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step, well, maybe not for the thousand miles journey, but at least I'm doing something more fun than my day time job. I'm enjoying it now at the moment, the whole process from shopping for stock, taking the picture, promote and advertise, building the customer relationship and etc.. hope both of us can be persistent in this in year 2012!



Please visit my biz profile selling Korea accessories - www.facebook.com/penqueen.si


In September, Danny was sent to Paris by his company and I decided to tag along. It was my first time land my feet on Europe! Paris doesn't loved by so many people especially girls for no reason. I love this place so much too. I spent a week in Paris and all I do during the day time while Danny at work is either laze away my day with a book on the grass, or visit the museums, or simply walk around without any itinerary in mind. Danny and I had great time in Paris - we dine and wine, picnic by the Seine river, had macaroon in the park, rent a Vespa and get ourselves lost in the city, went to the Church Service at the Magdalanae, vist the Paris Disneyland, had nutella at the Sacre Coeur, walk down the famous Champs Elysees and the sweetest moment - got proposed to on the Eiffel Tower. :) . It was indeed a surprise and I'm really touched. Now I just couldn't love Paris any less as it's a place carry such a big meaning to my better half and myself. Btw, if you were to ask me when are we having our wedding; we don't have a date yet. :p. 

Love the cute yellow Vespa

Wine by the Seine river with my better half. :)


Must have Macaroons! Yummy. :)

Arc de Triopmhe

The Jardin du Luxembourg, or the Luxembourg Gardens

@ Paris Disneyland :D



What more to say? Our dream comes true!!


The moment of proposal. It goes from "Will you?" to "I do" :)


Forever thankful that we found each other. :)

It's not the end yet. I told you it's an eventful year. Besides the Paris trip, I went diving with Danny during my flyback from Korea. It's been 2 years since my last dive. We drove to Terengganu and take a speed boat to the Lang Tengah island. I'm still not familiar with my buoyancy control and panic while I dive, nevertheless it was awesome and this time round we were able to take some nice underwater photo with my newly bought underwater casing. :) . Besides, I was on a family trip to Hatyai and went to Bali for Lezann's wedding. Although there is nothing much in Hatyai but I had great time too, it's spending precious moment with family that matter the most. And need not to say, Bali trip was awesome with the crazy gang.






After I got back from my oversea assignment; I was unassigned to any project. I've been working long hour constantly since I joined this organization, after 2 years this is my first time being so free at work. That's why most of my friends were surprised when they see back in action on facebook and MSN again. It wasn't too bad until I got super bored now being on the bench. I'm hoping "something" to turn up. Keep my finger crossed, don't make me wait too long.

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

finally watched jacky concert

dear, so happy that we finally managed to watch jacky concert together. it was a wonder night and concert :D

Wednesday, December 07, 2011

concert

jack cheung concert this weekend. cant wait to watch concert with you again.
i'm excited !

Sunday, December 04, 2011

Friday, April 15, 2011

Sorry Pa, Ma

Sorry Pa, Ma.. I missed the Qing Meng again.. I felt really bad.. Last year was due to work; this year can't avoid the same too. I'm afraid I can't remember how you looks like anymore.. I still miss you badly, pa, ma.

Thursday, March 24, 2011

Money is not everything

A friend of mine told me money is not everything. This statement make me ponder for a while. No, it's not about whether I agree with it, but it's about why did he need to remind me that? It used to be the other way round when friend and family remind me to be more financial conscious.. Am I no longer the person that have no clue about financial planning, and dun give a damn about savings for bad time? I think it started since years ago when I just bought the house I'm staying now. It was a terrible dark days where I spent all my savings and in big debts due to all the monthly instalment and commitment I have, I admit I wore a hat bigger than my head and I nearly lost my breath. And that's the time I realize how important money is and day after day I become the now-me who is, I hate to say, but, materialistic. I really hate being one. :(

I know, the matter of fact is money is still important, but it is not everything, and it should never be the driven factor for all the decision I made and going to make. And most importantly, I shall treasure the real essential things around me which is not to be measured by money. Remind myself to love life; and enjoy it.

Sunday, March 20, 2011

<转载>我認真工作,不代表我要當女強人!

有些人總愛說女人:「妳是不是很想當女強人?」對他們而言,只要是有事業心、認真於工作的女人,就像是女強人。

重點在於,古時代的觀念認為,有事業心是男人的事,女人只要好好當個家庭主婦就好。但是現在的社會,大部分的家庭已經是雙薪家庭,幾乎所有的女人出了社會都要工作,很多女人在事業上也表現的有聲有色不輸男人。男人也很矛盾,女人工作幫忙分擔家計他們會很感激,但如果女人的工作做得太好,甚至賺的比他多,很多男人還是擁有「大男人思想」他會吃味女人的能力太好。

在這樣的情況下,女人要賺錢、要有能力,但又不能賺的比男人多、能力比男人強。有錢要裝窮,聰明要裝笨,能力強要裝弱。這已經是許多女人心照不宣的生存之道。

所以說,女人有事業心到底對男人來說是好事還是壞事呢?

我常聽到有一種說法,如果女人很認真工作,在職場上表現得好,老一輩的人就會說:「這個女人事業心太強,找老婆還是不要找事業心太強的女人比較好。」

我聽了有點難過,也有點不解。為何認真工作就一定代表事業心強?認真工作是因為有上進心,對自己的工作有責任感,能夠把自己分內的事情做好,能夠與人團隊合作,能善於時間管理、有溝通能力。這樣「認真」的個性不是才能值得依靠信賴的人格特質嗎?難道自己的份內工作都做不好,朝三暮四的、做不爽就不做走人、工作上說到做不到、沒有責任感進取心,你會覺得這樣的人也能當一位好太太好母親?

最大的盲點在於,認真工作並不等於要當女強人。

認真工作是因為尊重自己的角色,當你要扮演好什麼角色,就好好的扮演好它。當個好員工、好主管,當個好女兒、好女友,當個好老婆、好媽媽...,每個人要當的角色那麼多,能夠盡職的把自己的角色扮演好,就像我喜歡我的工作,我就會盡職的把它做好,如果有一天我的工作變成了媽媽,我也會把我的角色扮演好。

不是每個認真工作的女人都要扮演呼風喚雨或錢財萬貫的女強人,而且,我在職場上也看到很多認真工作又認真的當一位好媽媽的女人,這樣的女人應該被敬佩、被體諒,蠟燭兩頭燒的角色並不是每個人都能扮演的好,每當我看到她們努力的身影,我都很感動。這樣的女人,要好好的疼惜。

或許有人覺得一旦女人有工作,就不能好好顧家。但事實上很多女人是沒有得選擇的,如果你的老公也是郭台銘那樣的富豪,你當然可以吃的好過的好,背名牌包去做公益,生小孩也不用煩惱家庭開支,完全的支持政府的催生計畫。

但是,很多女人是必須要工作才能生活、才能持家。當她們認真工作的時候,當她們還沒有結婚的時候,請不要嘲笑她們是因為太認真工作所以找不到男友,不要笑她們是老處女,也不要虛偽的讚美她們是女強人。

每個女人都想要當Superwoman,但並不一定是女強人。她們可以扮演好很多角色,為了另一半、為了家庭犧牲奉獻,她們一肩挑起很多責任。

或許有人覺得認真工作所以不能把家庭顧好。事實上,很多女人也是做得很好。而且,她們也願意為了家庭和孩子,先放下自己的工作,放棄很多機會和夢想。如果你問我,我也會把家庭擺在第一位。

最難過的是,當女人認真的為自己的生活打拼努力時,旁人在旁邊唱衰她:「妳看她就是太認真工作了所以變成老處女。」、「妳看一個女人再怎麼成功,嫁不掉就是敗犬。」、「妳看她事業心這麼強,以後一定不能當個好老婆。」、「妳看她就是太忙了,所以家裡一定顧不好。」...

是誰說,努力工作就是事業心強,事業心強就會變成女強人,女強人一定會欺負另一半、婚姻一定不幸福,然後她們不幸福就是你們等著看好戲的生活樂趣?

難道說,從現在開始我們來當廢材,不努力工作當然事業心不強(因為也沒事業),然後就代表我們一定能當個好老婆好媽媽很會顧家?

這樣對很多對自己工作很有責任感、努力向上,認真的女生來說,太不公平。

就算未來要當家庭主婦,如果我要當家庭主婦,責任心和處理事情的能力,都是很重要的。如果我要把一個角色做好,就要對自己的角色有責任感。

一個女人有事業心,不代表她不會回歸家庭,也不代表她一定會為了事業犧牲家人。不管是家庭主婦或職業婦女,都一樣偉大,也都一樣顧家。沒有誰好誰壞,都是選擇的問題,重點是,要把自己的角色扮演好。

不要有偏見的去否定她們,也不要先入為主的去定義別人。也不要去嘲笑那些比妳不幸福的女人,把別人的不幸當作笑話。

我一直我想要把自己這個角色扮演好,我從來不是獨善其身的人,對我來說我的生命價值是在於可以幫助更多的人,而不只是我自己過的好而已。我認真工作是因為我尊重我的角色,因為我尊重那些支持我的人,我有責任感要成為能夠對別人有貢獻的人,我努力把這件事做好,因為這是我的責任。

我從2003年開始寫作到現在也有8年的時間,從沒有一刻放棄或怠惰。我每天還是醒來抱著誠惶誠恐的心情怕自己寫的不夠多,每天睡前懷著愧疚的心情怕自己事情沒做完怎麼可以入睡。你們看到在你們面前呈現這樣樂觀又快樂的生活和形象,事實上,我是一直抱著「我怕我做得不夠好」的心態,不斷的給自己壓力,要進步、要努力。

但是如果今天有人要說因為我是個有事業心的女人,所以我不能當個好老婆好媽媽,所以我不能擁有幸福的人生。我會覺得好難過。

因為我是這麼努力。

而且,我從來不是大女人,我也從來沒有想過要當女強人。

我這麼努力只是希望未來可以讓我身邊的人過的更好,我可以更有肩膀、更有能力去照顧別人,即便是有戰爭了,我也一定會站在我另一半我家人面前擋子彈的那種人,誰要欺負我的愛人,就算我不會打架,我一定站起來跟他搏鬥到底。而不是在後面哭泣躲在別人身後等著你保護。

的確,我不是弱女子,或許我內心很脆弱。但是,我想當個強壯的女人,可以擋風遮雨保護別人的女人。

我不是弱女子,但請不要叫我女強人。

請你好好欣賞我,你知道我是什麼樣的女人。

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Happy White Day

I've heard about White Day in Japan but didn't know Korean observe this day too, no wonder I saw a lot of people queuing up for chocolates yesterday while I was in the mall. :D

It's so cute where some of my male colleagues giving chocolates and candies to every female colleagues in the office. I received few too, it's such a sweet thing to receive so many chocolates and candies in a day. ^^.

HAPPY WHITE DAY! ^^

Monday, February 07, 2011

Happy Rabbit Year

After a week off, I'm back to work today. As usual, it was a great CNY, I get to spend time with family and friends. I think this is the first year I felt paiseh to receive Ang Pow; I think this is the sense of ageing. Look at my eldest nephew, he is 10 years old now! It was like just happened yesterday when my sister was pregnant and we stay together in Seremban with my parents when my brother in law was at outstation. Ah... time flew~

I stayed at my Sister's place during CNY. Jean is now 8 years old and we can have pillow talk already. I love it when she tells me all her story in school and her feeling about everything. I had fun playing with my other nephews and nieces too, they bring laughters to my family; no wonder they say God brought children into this dark world because it needed the light that only a child can bring. It would be great if my parents can see this and I'm sure they will be x100 happier than what I'm feeling now, yeah I miss them, CNY will never be the same again without my parents. Btw, seeing all my nephews and nieces growing year after year, I wish I can spend more time with them before they are all grown up and find me naggy. Besides, the older I get, the more precious I find to spend time with relatives. I am blessed with relatives that are close to each other. The usual relatives gathering on the 2nd day of CNY is always the most anticipating events for me throughout the whole CNY.

On the 3rd day of CNY, I went to Sze Ling's crib with Chai Har and Lin Hui, we did nothing but chit chat for hoursssss. They are my best friends since secondary school but sadly we don't get to meet each other that often. I think the last time we met was during CNY last year. Although we seldom meet up but I can still feel the bonding; thats what real friendship suppose to be. Now Sze Ling is expecting a baby daughter! Awwww~~ I dunno how to describe the feeling when you see your best friend is a mummy-soon-to-be while you can still clearly remember her in her blue uniform. Are we really ageing but I wasn't realize until today?

Btw, it's just 5th day of CNY and I believe there will be more gatherings on it's way!!! Can't wait to meet up with you all!! YES, YOU!! I'm saying YOU!! Let's catch up..

(Source : http://iamboey.com )

Sunday, January 09, 2011

Myeong Dong shopping is seoul fun

Oh my.. Myeong Dong shopping is soooooo fun.. everything is cheap and nice here.. really love this place to bits.. I was with my male colleague hence not really can shop to the max coz afraid he will be tooo bored. I must go back again one day alone or with girl friends and really shop till I drop kao kao...

I can't remember the price of all, but it's so much cheaper than Malaysia. The fruits thingy is a mask, that whole pack only cost me about RM40, just nice to be souvenir. ^.^


This is like RM3 each, and really good quality one..where to find in KL????


15k won each piece which is about RM45...

Friday, January 07, 2011

twisted ankle very painful !!!!

my twisted ankle was killing me last night. i was unable to sleep soundly due to the swollen ankle. everything i try to turn or move my leg my ankle give me the kind of numb sourish pain. dont know when only swollen ankle would subside. damm.

Thursday, January 06, 2011

An Yeong Ha Se Yo

My 4th day in Korea and probably this is one of the best day I have so far. I off work by 10pm, walked to the E-mart to grab some groceries, back to my apartment and had a HOT bath with my facial mask on, then sipping a bowl of Makkoli with strawberry and blogging while waiting Danny to come online.. ^__^

walk to and from office everyday in the snow. -13 degree celcius ain't no joke.

Yeah, I like the Makkoli more than the famous Korean soju. It's a milky rice wine and taste sweet & sour. Too bad I can't bring this back home coz it can't be kept for more than 1-2 days. I bought some Soju for Danny though :)

The tall green bottle is the Makkoli, must drink with bowl. When in korea, do the korean do.

And yeah, people talk about Korean strawberry a lot. It's indeed veeery sweet and not sour at all. It's nice, but still, fruit's just fruit, nothing to shout for. Btw I find their strawberry jam is nice.. gonna curi few small packet from my hote breakfast back home.. kekeke, yeah, I'm cheapskate.

Then the work culture.. its always long working hour, 9am till 11pm almost everyday. Meeting the whole day, lunch, drinking, dinner, drinking again, back to office continue working till late night, then go home. -___-. It's long working hour but doesn't seems productive to me. And they just speak in Korean in all the meeting. Imagine forcing yourself in a cinema for a bollywood movie without subtitle *sweat.... Btw there is a culture where I super loving it, which is the boss always pay for lunch and dinner.. EVERYTIME!! I dunno whether they claim it or not la.. but who cares, I got free meal everyday. hehe..Ya, told ya I'm cheapskate... but hey, their food are expensive, one simple meal can simply cost you rm30-40 .. even from the office canteen also cost RM10!

Talk about food. Korean food is nice. I love their bibimbap and the sweet&sour pork belly. See if I have time to explore the nice food in Seoul this weekend. :) Then will blog more about it.

Arghhhhh, see how many paragraphs I've blogged dy but where are you Mr. Wong??????!!